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An investment action inspired by Supergirl: how you can use your Roth IRA to buy property

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Buy land, they aren’t making anymore of it. – Mark Twain

I am a firm believer in the learning curve. A learning curve is the rate of a person’s progress in gaining experience or new skills. Through time and experience will your ever-increasing knowledge and skills grow to help you make better and wiser decisions. That includes not only in your personal life, but in your financial life as well.

This post was inspired on an episode from the television series Supergirl (2015-2021). In an early Season One episode, two or three, Supergirl (Kara Danvers played by actress Melissa Benoist) is having a talk with her boss, Cat Grant, at her job with the company CatCo.

See the events of that exchange below.

Cat penned an article for the Tribune on Supergirl’s blunder at the port and ordered Kara to get it ready for posting. Kara wondered why Cat was constantly criticizing Supergirl, claiming that Superman never faced such heavy backlash. Cat expressed that women need to work twice as hard as men to succeed, pointing out that Supergirl, despite her good intentions, is still a novice; she left Flight 237 in the bay after saving it and now caused an oil spill while trying to prevent a fire. Since Supergirl’s job is a learning curve, Cat advised her to start with smaller targets and work her way up, similar to how the latter rose through the ranks at the Daily Planet.

Put simply, no one starts in at the top. You have to work your way there. Wealth building requires the same.

You have to learn to manage one dollar before you can manage one million. You start small and work your way up. Then it hit me. You can use one wealth building tool to help you build another. They are both levers that can be used to help you scale up your wealth.

It is like the S meaning on Supergirl’s costume. It is the family crest for the House of El; it means Stronger Together.

Both your Roth IRA and home investment can help you build wealth faster. They are both stronger together.  

The major fortunes in America have been made in land. – John D. Rockefeller

New Home, Construction, Industry, House

Buying a home takes money. You generally need money for two items: Down payment and closing costs. You can use funds from your Roth IRA to do this.

Roth IRA withdrawal rules allow you to take out up to $10,000 earnings tax and penalty-free as long as you use them for a first-time home purchase and you first contributed to a Roth account at least five years ago.

Normally you would need to wait until you are age 59 1/2 to start withdrawing funds. If you withdraw money from the account before age 59 1/2, you will typically have to pay a 10% penalty on the amount withdrawn. The distribution will also be subject to taxes. However, there are certain circumstances in which you might be able to take out funds from the account before reaching age 59 1/2 and not incur penalties.

One exception to the early withdrawal penalty is for the purchase of a first home. To be considered a first-time homebuyer, you cannot have owned a primary residence at any time during the previous two years.

This $10,000 exception is available for every individual, so a married couple can withdraw $10,000 from each of their IRAs for a total of $20,000 that can be used for a down payment.

In addition to purchasing your own home, you may qualify to help others buy their first house. IRA owners can withdraw funds penalty-free to help their first-time home buying children, grandchildren or parents purchase a home. Sweet!

However, $10,000 is the lifetime maximum for first-time homebuyer withdrawals. Therefore, the total of your withdrawals must remain under the $10,000 mark to avoid the early withdrawal penalty.

Many of you out there may say why not a traditional IRA. There is a method to my madness. Bear with me.

The reason for using a Roth versus Traditional IRA is that while there will not be a penalty on early IRA distributions for a first home purchase, you can expect to pay taxes on the amount withdrawn when using a traditional IRA.

For example, if you are in the 22% tax bracket, a $10,000 withdrawal for a home purchase will lead to $2,200 in taxes. For a couple in the 24% tax bracket who withdraws $20,000, the taxes due would come to $4,800.

However, this is not the case for the Roth because you have already paid taxes on that money so you owe no income taxes on money that is withdrawn for a first time home purchase.

So if you are all in on this plan, then let’s get down to business.

Ninety percent of all millionaires become so through owning real estate. – Andrew Carnegie

The rules for using a Roth IRA rather than a traditional IRA are slightly different. You can withdraw any contributions (not earnings) at any time from your Roth IRA before retirement age without penalties as long as the account is at least five years old. You will be able to withdraw any amount up to the total amount you contributed without being subject to taxes.

In addition to your Roth IRA contributions, you might opt to take out some of the earnings in the Roth IRA. You can withdraw an additional $10,000 from the earnings under the first-time homebuyer exemption.

This is where the withdrawal exception comes into play. You may withdraw a combination of both contributions and earnings or just earnings to use toward your home purchase.

Just remember that if you are only using earnings the cap is $10,000. Any penny above that will trigger the 10% penalty in a traditional IRA or just the the income taxes in a Roth IRA.

You can always take out funds above the $10,000 threshold if you are taking out contributions only or in addition to earnings.

Again, simple math can help you build wealth.

We don’t have to be smarter than the rest. We have to be more disciplined than the rest. – Warren Buffett

My method of using the Roth IRA early withdrawal exception.

First, I did some research and found out that if you qualify as a first-time homebuyer, you can withdraw up to $10,000 from your traditional IRA and use the money to buy, build, or rebuild a home.

Second, I learned that with a Roth IRA, you can withdraw your contributions tax- and penalty-free at any time, for any reason, as long as you have held the account for at least five years.

This got me thinking. At the time, I was renting. I had opened up a Roth IRA more than five years ago. I had been squirreling away cash in it since opening it up with T Rowe Price starting with $50 dollars a month.

I also opened up a second Roth IRA with another brokerage at another time as not to mess with the good thing I had going with the first one as you could no longer open a Roth IRA with T Rowe and continue with an automatic contribution of $50 per month.

Do not scoff or turn your nose up at investing small sums of money. Over the years dealing with both accounts and after regular and sporadic contributions over time my T Rowe account grew to over $10,000 as did my other one. I had well over $25,000 in both not counting my 401(k), Rollover IRA, or other cash and investments.

I was skeptical about moving forward at first with this decision to buy property. My first. Then, I thought about what Wayne Gretzy and Michael Jordan said, “You miss 100% of every shot you don’t take.”

This quote helped me as well. Progress always involves risk. You can’t steal 2nd base and keep your foot on 1st.– Fred Wilcox

Therefore, I went for it.

I started by combining both accounts. Then, I cashed out $13,000 of of my Roth IRA.

The first $3,000 was in contributions and the additional $10,000 was in earnings. After, using the funds for closing costs and a small part of it for renovations, I ending up paying taxes on a tiny portion. The grand total: $238.

I was shocked! I couldn’t believe it. I felt like I should have taken the plunge long ago.

Alas, we cannot look backwards, we can only go forward. Within a few months of me owning the property it had increased in value by $14,000. That is more than what I withdrew to get the place.

And owning gave me such a sense of peace. That right there is priceless. I decided to do some updates and renovations to feel better about the space I was in. It took some hard work and time, but it was worth it in the end.

I got inspiration from several places. I knew I wanted the feel of how I always felt every time I walked into a Restoration Hardware.

Restoration Hardware The Gallery at The Estate in Buckhead - Gilbane
Restoration Hardware Front Entrance

I got the idea to base my bathroom feel and design on the Marriott and Caesar’s Palace in Vegas. Clean lines, white, simple and elegant. I also went with frosted sliding shower doors that you could not see through.

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Caesar’s Palace Las Vegas
First Look: JW Marriott Hotel Macau – Business Traveller
JW Marriott

My bedroom is my center and place of peace. I call it my home base. I also always have a mini home office in my bedroom as I like to roll out of bed in my pajamas and write, work and check the stock quotes.

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Houzz design

And I love an organized closet. I got inspiration for mine from the Container Store. Although, mine does not look like this, I did make sure it was organized with all of my suits, shoes, and sweaters together like in the picture below.

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The Container Store Custom Closet Design

Lastly, the heart of the home. The kitchen was inspired by honey + lime. Stainless steel appliances and organized kitchen cabinets make life easier. Again, although my kitchen does not look like this, it was done with something like the picture shown in mind.

Kitchen remodel, Samsung stainless steel french door refrigerator at Best Buy
honey + lime kitchen design

Every time I think back and ask myself if I made the right decision I think of this quote from FDR.

Real estate cannot be lost or stolen, nor can it be carried away. Purchased with common sense, paid for in full, and managed with reasonable care, it is about the safest investment in the world. – Franklin D. Roosevelt

Amen.

Money and Life advice I got from Paper Towns

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“You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world…but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices.” – John Green, author The Fault in Our Stars

The summer of 2015 my nieces really wanted me to take them to go see this movie. Not knowing what it was about, I decided to go ahead and take them because of their sheer enthusiasm alone. I was not disappointed. The movie was incredible.

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It is a coming of age teenage romance written by the Fault in Our Stars author John Green.

The movie was based on a Young Adult (YA) he novel he wrote entitled Paper Towns.

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It follows along with two young teens Margo Roth Spiegelman (played by Cara Delevingne) and Quentin Jacobsen or Q for short (played by Nat Wolff).

It was turned into a motion picture by Twentieth Century Fox and released in theaters on July 9, 2015.

The film is a series of adventures and near misses while we tag along with Quentin to find his dream girl, who goes missing just a couple weeks before high school graduation. Although, the film is fun, it’s the dialogue that really captures your attention and wins your heart.

If you get a chance, you can get lost, get found with Paper Towns.

WHAT IS A PAPER TOWN?

A paper town is a fake town that is created by map makers, as a way to protect their copyright, to know if they’ve been robbed.

In the film, it is referenced as a shallow town or place. Everything is so fake. A place that is fragile.

ALL STORIES HAVE A BEGINNING AND SOME ARE SWEET

“She had the kind of fingers you want to interlace with your own.” – Quentin

The story is based around the feelings Quentin has for his childhood sweetheart and crush, Margo Roth Spiegelman.

At a young age, it was shown that Margo was a precocious child. This intrigued Quentin. However, as they got older she became more outgoing and him more introverted.

Throughout my life, I have had to throw caution to the wind and go for what I want. If you want anything in this world, at times, you will have to do the same. You have to go all in and strike first.

For example, when I was looking a job many years ago, I decided to approach it as a numbers game. I said screw it. I’m just going to apply for as many jobs as I can and see what happens.

I must have put out 100 resumes. Out of all of those job applications, I got one yes. But that was all I needed. You only need one yes to change your whole life. It just starts with putting yourself out there. Nothing comes from obscurity and being shy. Sometimes, you have to be willing to shout.

PRETTY HURTS

“That’s always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they’re pretty. It’s like picking your breakfast cereals based on color instead of taste.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

What you look like on the outside is all vanity. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Do not let society dictate what you should be. Be you. And remember this: beauty fades.

“I’m starting to realize that people lack good mirrors. It’s so hard for anyone to show us how we look, & so hard for us to show anyone how we feel.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

You have to rely on more than just your looks in this life.  Eventually, you will have to take care of yourself. You better be up for the task or you will have problems.

I have seen tons of beautiful women have bad credit, horrible relationships, and be broke. But hey, at least they were pretty right?

It is not enough to be pretty. You have to be more than just fine. No one wants to marry a beautiful airhead or a beautiful fool.

This blog is all about financial independence.

Have you ever heard the saying a fool and his money is soon parted?

I rest my case.

MAKE THE FIRST MOVE

“I didn’t need you, you idiot. I picked you. And then you picked me back.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

Those who make the first move are usually victorious.

In the film, Quentin wants so badly to be with Margo. However, he always holds back. In this life, you can’t hold anything back.

Case in point, in this blog, I don’t hold anything back. I give you everything I have. I know that’s what I want when I deal with people. So, I make sure to do the same to others. Whatever it is you want in this life, this is my advice to you: make your move.

YOUR LIFE CAN CHANGE IN ONE DAY…OR A NIGHT

“Tonight, darling, we are going to right a lot of wrongs. And we are going to wrong some rights. The first shall be last; the last shall be first; the meek shall do some earth-inheriting. But before we can radically reshape the world, we need to shop.” – Margo Roth Spiegelman

I have read countless biographies of the rich and famous where they retell how a single incident changed the course of their entire lives.

Well, in this film, it is the night Margo climbed through Q’s window.

She asks him to borrow his mom’s car so she can go on a midnight caper of revenge or he could come along too and be the get a way driver.

Decisions, decisions.

PICK A PATH

“The way I figure it, everyone gets a miracle. Like, I will probably never be struck by lightning, or win a Nobel Prize, or become the dictator of a small nation in the Pacific Islands, or contract terminal ear cancer, or spontaneously combust. But if you consider all the unlikely things together, at least one of them will probably happen to each of us. I could have seen it rain frogs. I could have stepped foot on Mars. I could have been eaten by a whale. I could have married the Queen of England or survived months at sea. But my miracle was different. My miracle was this: out of all the houses in all the subdivisions in all of Florida, I ended up living next door to Margo Roth Spiegelman.” ― Quentin Jacobsen, Paper Towns

You can pretty much guess what answer he gave Margo.

He went with her.

Let the fun begin.

REVENGE IS A DISH BEST SERVED COLD AND AT NIGHT

“I always felt like you had to be important to have enemies.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

When she asks for his mom’s car, she tells him that she has like 11 items on her to-do list tonight and that most of them will probably require a getaway car.  

I remember that quote from Winston Churchill, “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” Margo reminds me of that. She found out her friends had wronged her. So, she decided to take matters into her own hands.

“We bring the rain down on our enemies, not the scattered showers” – Margo Roth Spiegelman

That is a line that she says of their hit-and-run capers, on that fun-filled night, as she leaves a Zorro-like ‘M’ that is left at the scene of all her crimes.

Margo replies this when Q asks her if her scheme of getting revenge is necessary and if they can do something that is not so risky and harsh.

I have to agree. Sometimes you have to teach people a lesson. You have to tell people how you want to be treated. Stand up for yourself. You may not need a night of midnight capers to do it, but you can still send a message that you’re not a pushover.

“If you don’t imagine, nothing ever happens at all.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

Margo has some pretty extreme things she does that night.

First, they shop for supplies.

Second, they visit each one of her enemies.

Lastly, they celebrate their success at escaping getting caught.

I too like to celebrate my wins.

When I was able to start slowly paying off debt one by one, I celebrated each time. It keeps the momentum going. And just makes you feel good. Hard work = success and rewards.

  • Paid off my car. Then I treated myself to a spa day.
  • Then used that money to invest.
  • Once I hit my $100k mark, I turned my attention to hitting a target of 3 times more of $300k.
  • After I pay off each debt, I either save or invest that money.
  • I started saving $25 a week and slowly went to saving $100 a week and so on.

See my posts

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 No matter how big or small. Winning just feels good so you want to celebrate.

BE PRESENT IN THE MOMENT

Quentin had the time of his life that night. It was a fun ride to say the least. And he enjoyed every moment.

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“What about the rest of your life?”

She shrugged. “What about it?”

“Aren’t you worried about, like, forever?”

“Forever is composed of nows,” she says.”

During that incredible night with Margo, Quentin is laughing and smiling. He was having so much fun.

“My heart is really pounding,” I said.

“That’s how you know you’re having fun,” Margo said.”

While they were running away from one of their capers, Margo says, “I mean, we’re ninjas.”

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Of his time with Margo, Quentin thinks to himself, “At least I carpe’d that one diem.”

As she left notes, at all of her crime scenes, Quentin notices her handwriting and remarks on it.

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“Interesting capitalization,’ I said.

‘Yeah. I’m a big believer in random capitalization. The rules of capitalization are so unfair to words in the middle.”

Absolutely. Live in the present. Enjoy the moment. Have some fun. Plan for the future, but don’t forget to live for today. Plan a visit with friends, or to a park or movie or museum. Or relax and take a break.

Seize the day!

There will always be something that requires your attention. I say if you have to work, find a way to have some fun too. If you’re not having fun, then what’s the point?

SURVIVE AND THRIVE

“I’m not saying that everything is survivable. Just that everything except the last thing is.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

No matter what life throws at you, handle it like an adult. You can’t always throw a temper tantrum every time you can’t get your way. You cannot use your fists and throw punches at people. Use your words. That’s what adults do.

It is not enough to merely survive. You do want to survive, yes. But you also want to thrive. Success comes to those who work for it. It is your duty to go out and get it. Your family’s survival depends on it.

If you ever saw the movie Troy, you heard the line, “guard this sword with your life. As long as a Trojan wields it, our people have a future.” Same rule applies for your family. You must survive and prosper today, so that your family has a future.

See my post Financial Independence in 10 years

LEARN HISTORY AS IT TEACHES US LESSONS

“Did you know that for pretty much the entire history of the human species, the average life span was less than thirty years? You could count on ten years or so of real adulthood, right? There was no planning for retirement. There was no planning for a career. There was no planning. No time for planning. No time for a future. But then the life spans started getting longer, and people started having more and more future. And now life has become the future. Every moment of your life is lived for the future–you go to high school so you can go to college so you can get a good job so you can get a nice house so you can afford to send your kids to college so they can get a good job so they can get a nice house so they can afford to send their kids to college.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

They say history often repeats.

Did you know that in the gilded age, robber barons held about 80% of all the wealth in this country about a century ago? And that many folks had no plan for retirement at all. No pensions, no 401(k), nothing.

That’s right. Before FDR created Social Security in the 1930’s, there was no pension for the elderly and many were living in poverty. Many people did not live past the age of 65. They did not have to plan so far ahead because many did not live long enough to see any type of future.

That has changed. Today people are living longer. You are your first, best, last, and only line of defense against living in poverty.  

Bill Gates said, “If you are born poor, it’s not your mistake. But if you die poor, it’s your mistake.”

Basically, he means you should do everything you can to build a better life for yourself. That means if you can’t go outside and play all day, you have to deal with it.

Can’t see that concert this week. Oh well.

You can only play one sport or instrument. Well, that’s it then.

You have to stay up and study all night for that big exam. That’s life.

Buy a new car or invest that money? Your call, but I suggest you buy a Honda or Ford and invest your dough.

See what I mean. Sacrifice. It yields great rewards.

HIGH SCHOOL IS NOT A DEMOCRACY

“High school is neither a democracy nor a dictatorship – nor, contrary to popular belief, an anarchic state. High school is a divine-right monarchy. And when the queen goes on vacation, things change.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

This is a nice take on the whole high school experience.

I felt high school was so silly. I could care less about who wears what or say this or that. I have never been a gossip. I kept my eye on the prize: high school diploma. Everything else is just stuff you do in-between until you reach the end of that goal. Most of the stuff that goes on won’t even matter after you graduate.

“I know it’s impossible for you to see your peers this way, but when you’re older, you start to see them–the bad kids and the good kids and all kids–as people. They’re just people, who deserve to be cared for.”

Amen.

“As much as life can suck, it always beats the alternative.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

You have to make lemonade out of lemons. There is always another rainbow and tomorrow does always come and it can get better. The alternative to getting old is dying young.

I will never forget this one time I was talking to an older gentleman and he said he felt old because he was retired. It went down like this.

Him: I feel old. Now, that I’m retired.

Me: Retirement means income.

Him: I like you. (He smiled and perked up.)

A few words of kindness can elevate someone mood, lift their spirits, make their day, and change a situation completely. So, be kind.

“Be curious, not judgmental.” – Walt Whitman

“You know your problem, Quentin? You keep expecting people not to be themselves. I mean, I could hate you for being massively unpunctual and for never being interested in anything other than Margo Roth Spiegelman, and for, like, never asking me about how it’s going with my girlfriend – but I don’t give a shit, man, because you’re you. My parents have a shit ton of black Santas, but that’s okay. They’re them. I’m too obsessed with a reference website to answer my phone sometimes when my friends call, or my girlfriend. That’s okay, too. That’s me. You like me anyway. And I like you. You’re funny, and you’re smart, and you may show up late, but you always show up eventually.” ― John Green, Paper Towns

That last line brought it home didn’t it? He started kind of shaky, but he finished strong. And that is how life is. You start out shaky and are working on a learning curve, then you finish strong. You do everything in your power to stay grounded, stay hungry, hustle hard, and stay humble.

I promise you, that if you ever get lost, the harder you work, the louder you shout and the more you seek to find answers and the truth, then the more likely it is you will find what you are looking for and get found.

Money advice from Gossip Girl

Earn the spotlight on your own merits. You’ll feel better. – Serena

I was reading a book when I decided to take a walk down memory lane and watch Gossip Girl on Netflix.

For those of you that may not know or remember the show, Gossip Girl was a show about privileged American socialite teens at an elite and exclusive academic prep school in Manhattan’s Upper East Side (UES); whose every move was texted out through an eblast via tips to  an anonymous site called Gossip Girl.

What is Gossip Girl and what it does?

What’s the difference between gossip and scandal? So glad you asked, UES Forever. Anyone can commit a minor indiscretion and generate a day’s worth of buzz. But in order for gossip to birth a true scandal, it requires the right person to be in the wrong place. – Gossip Girl

The show was on the WB, then the CW, and aired from September 19, 2007 through December 17, 2012. The show was narrated by Kristen Bell (as Gossip Girl). Scandals, scoops, and hemlines run amuck. The show may have had a serious lack of ethics, but it did make for some interesting television.

Gossip Girl is based on a popular book series of the same name written by Cecily von Ziegesar. The adapted television series in 2007 came about from the book series she started in 2002.

Gossip Girl will always have a special place in my heart.

It was in 2007 that I heard this line from the show:  You know, Dad, there’s this thing called MySpace where you can post all of this information online. Save some trees, have a blog. – Dan Humphrey

 It peaked my interest in blogging. Then, I started this one, Greenbacks Magnet, 9 years later.

Some of the dialogue may be a bit harsh in its tone and delivery, but there was some truth behind some of their words.

Gossip Girl likes to keep things classy and somewhat true. – Serena van der Woodsen played by Blake Lively

Serena is so grateful because she likes to see the best in people. I like to see the truth. – Blair

So, let’s get right into it.

MEET THE MONEY PLAYERS

You got me thinking. If my class is so important to you maybe I ought to make it worth your while. So for the next seven weeks it’s fewer models and martinis, more flow charts and footnotes.– Colin Forrestor played by Sam Page

Last month, on Thanksgiving Day, I decided to watch some Thanksgiving themed movies and television episodes. And I settled on watching Gossip Girl.

As GG fans know, it just hooks you in with all the drama and high fashion that’s fun to look at.

The music was pretty good too. Found the GG soundtrack for music featured in every episode here. 

The series follows Upper East Siders throughout their never ending drama filled lives that is often self-inflicted. It Girl Serena van der Woodsen is centered around it all and is the star of the show. Her friends and family make up the rest of the cast.

One of my favorite scenes is actually from the first episode of the series. It was a face-off that was incredible between two young women and it set the tone for the show.

The 4 top-billed (in my opinion) and main cast includes the following:

Blake Lively as Serena van der Woodsen AKA S

Leighton Meester as Blair Waldorf AKA B

Chace Crawford as Nate Archibald AKA Golden Boy

Ed Westwick as Chuck Bass Always

If you pay close attention to their conversations, they are dropping some serious money gems.

These little nuggets of life and money wisdom, when interpreted and applied correctly, could transform lives and bank balances.

Let’s begin.

WORK FOR WHAT YOU WANT

Never in my 16,982 hours of schooling have I ever been sentenced to detention. – Blair

Throughout the show, the main cast is always discussing their futures and going to college.

It was almost incessant in the amount of pretentious ponderings of how to be sartorially correct while interviewing for a top spot as a Yalie. And yes, that is a quite accurate assessment of the character known as Blair on the show.

Blair would look and act so innocent and demure like she couldn’t melt butter, but her stare and looks were as cold as ice. Very entertaining.

Here she goes on one of her tirades.

I am so a better fit for Yale than that Rory. – Blair

Now, she’s belittling and disparaging the character of one of my favorite shows Gilmore Girls.

Check out my posts where I talk Gilmore.

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But enough of the $50 words. Let’s talk about the rest of the show.

They attend the fictitious Constance Billard School for Girls and St. Jude School for Boys. In addition, throughout the show you may hear them casually drop names of other schools.

In the Gossip Girl (book series) — it contains the line “two little Sacred Heart girls in their cute red and white checked pinafores were walking an enormous black Rottweiler” on page 86 in the first novel of the series.

Many of the parents are part of high-society and are on boards of prestigious organizations, own businesses, and live in penthouses. They go to great parties, opening nights to the ballet, and fashion week.

You get the impression that these kids know to base their lives around money and making sure to earn piles of it is a must.

They are tireless paragons of poshness. The parties are lavish, the lifestyle is glamorous, and the fashion is couture and expensive. Makes for a great show.

What I noticed was that everyone in one way or another was working hard at trying to make their own way in the world apart from their rich and or famous families.

They chased their dreams relentlessly. Like a boss.

And made huge sacrifices to get what they wanted.

Great leaders only need three hours of sleep! – Blair

They worked, started or interned at major businesses, magazines, for fashion designers, newspapers, literary writers, politicians, and fashion houses.

You’re not likely to get or keep those gigs for long if you are playing around.

“When and if we end up together, it has to be as equals.” – Blair

Yes, indeed. Be independent.

BET ON SELF

Here’s my advice: Have a little faith, and if that doesn’t work, have a lot of mimosas.– Blair in the Wild Brunch Season 1 Episode 2

My family is really into waffles. – Jenny Humphrey sister of Dan Humphrey played by Taylor Momsen

If you want something, go get it. Have some faith in yourself. And good food and conversation go together.  I have learned a lot about people when having lunch with them. It’s a great way to build relationships. My favorite meal is brunch. I too love waffles!

See my post, Forget casinos, bet on yourself for more on this topic.

THE SO-CALLED ELITE

Their membership is so restricted, it makes Soho House look like a halfway house. – Blair

They say of you want to increase membership to something then increase the selection criteria.

The Ivy League have made this an art form. As you see on this show, even the wealthy were concerned about their college admissions. There was even some talk of donations to a school to get in. In the end, you see deep down, we all have our insecurities. Accept it, and move on.

I have learned that I am no better than anybody else, but I am always just as good.

KNOW YOUR WORTH

You deserve someone who would move mountains for you if he had to. – Blair to Serena 

Normal people don’t get an endless number of chances, no matter the situation. That’s just you. – Dan to Serena

I have heard people say that well-behaved women seldom make history. At least that is what Eleanor Roosevelt said. I guess you can take her word for it as her husband FDR made history.

“I have an idea for you: quit. Your boss is a bi*ch. Let’s go to lunch.”

I have actually done just that very thing. I quit a bad job. Got a better job. And never looked back.

 “I’m not a stop along the way, I’m a destination.” – Blair

That line could be someone’s Bumble Bee bio. I call it sophisticated confidence.

“He ended up treating me like something he owned instead of something he earned.” -Blair

You’re worth more than a guest lecture fee, everyone knows that. – Dan to Serena

Well put. Damn straight!

Be unique. Have your own voice. Be you.

See my post, How being an outlier can make you rich

How being an outlier can make you rich

YOUR INCOME

A man who own a tuxedo shows that he has the means and can afford to provide for his family – Blair in Belles Du Jour Season 4 Episode 1

One of my favorite lines from the show comes from none other than Nate Archibald while talking to Chuck Bass.

Excuse me? Where’s my boy? “Seal the deal.” “Tap that a$$.” “Money marries bigger money.”

Wow. Money marries bigger money. That’s kind of cold, but ok.

I could care less about his Bassets and probably he’s filtering his assets through some foreign government so I won’t know. – Blair on Chuck Bass.

S: So you hired escorts? B, you couldn’t just tell your mom you don’t have friends at NYU?

B: Prostitutes are people, too, and they have a lot of disposable income. – Serena and Blair

Yes, people are focused on income, A LOT.

Jane Austen also so eloquently puts how much emphasis people put on income in two of her novels. And also how to treat others with or without money.

FOR THE LOVE OF HEADBANDS

I know you disapprove of me, but can’t you at least do so in a tuxedo?– Lily van der Woodsen played by Kelly Rutherford

This show loves their tuxedos. And themed parties. Masquerade. Kiss on the Lips. You name it.

It is often said when you look good, you feel good. Well, I concur. You feel more confident as well.

I remember going to a job interview where some folks didn’t take it seriously. I wore a nice dress and some of the men wore suits while others wore jeans.

After I got hired and when I later started the job, I noticed on my first day that all the people that got hired were the ones that were well-dressed.

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Piece of advice: lose the tulip. – Chuck

If you know one thing about GG, you know it’s all about the fashion.

The well-heeled wear nice heels. Blair was known for her love of headbands. People were always giving her grief about it.

Your era is over, and so is that headband. – Jenny

No headbands in college, okay? – Dan to Blair

Et tu, Dan?

SvdW was known for her fantastic sense of style.

And she had more loose interpretation of a school uniform than any person on the planet. The Tie Goddess. See for yourself.

EDUCATION IS PRICELESS AND THE PRICE OF INTELLECTUALISM

S:Wow, and I thought college would be different from high school.

B:Who would want that? – Serena and Blair

These kids were not just applying to any colleges, but the Ivy League. They wanted to be HYPsters (Harvard, Yale, Princeton) or the like.  What Blair called the Holy Trinity of colleges. Which are all expensive colleges. We are talking $50,000 USD per year or more.

It was a constant stressor of theirs during the shows first four seasons. Case in point, here is a list of the schools they were trying to get into or that their parents attended.

For instance, Serena wanted to go to Brown and that college and Harvard are where her parents went. Blair wanted Yale and Nate was considering UCLA over Dartmouth like his father. There was also talk of Columbia, Georgetown, and NYU on the show.

It just goes to show you that getting an education is still mighty important.

Serena van der Woodsen or SvdW for short – Brown University, Columbia University

SvdW parents attended – Harvard University and Brown University

Fun show Fact: SvdW dropped out of Brown at the last minute because she wanted to find herself and she felt that moving away to another city wouldn’t help her achieve that. The classic one-year hiatus otherwise known as the infamous gap year before entering college.

This is what Blair had to say to her about going there.

Your deductive-reasoning skills are perfect for a place like Brown. An enclave of trustafarians and children of celebrities who major in drum circles and semiotics, whatever that is. I can’t wait for you to come home next Thanksgiving a militant veganista, anemic and proud. – Blair

It left me speechless.

Blair Waldorf – Yale University, Columbia University, New York University (NYU), NYU – Tisch School of the Arts

Nate Archibald – Columbia University, Dartmouth

Chuck Bass – Columbia University

Dan Humphrey AKA Lonely Boy played by Penn Badgley – NYU

Vanessa Abrams played by Jessica Szohr – NYU

Eric van der Woodsen played by Connor Paolo – Sarah Lawrence

Some character’s shots at the sheepskin, in my opinion, and other honorable college mentions include:

Reaches: Yale, Harvard, Princeton

Realistic: UPenn, Georgetown, UMiami, Duke, USC, UCLA, Columbia, Tulane, Pepperdine, Wesleyan, Dartmouth

Safeties: Cornell, Vanderbilt, George Washington

READ TO GET AHEAD IN LIFE

I’m telling you, I learned everything I know about women from Judy Blume’s Forever. – Dan

According to List Challenges, “Gossip Girl” (2007 – 2012) : here is a listing of some of the favorite authors and books of the characters or simply the ones mentioned by them and showed along these 6 seasons, books studied in university, etc.

Many characters also name dropped or were caught reading well-known books by famous authors.

I love the Snowflake Ball. It reminds me of Anna Karenina, only by Anna Wintour. – Serena

Maybe if we become famous writers one day, they’ll publish [our letters] after we die, like Sartre and de Beauvoir. – Vanessa

They also liked to travel extensively. Especially, in Europe such as Paris, France. In addition, they speak more than one language such as French while in Paris.

Elliott’s the perfect mix of smart and fun: He speaks three languages, but he has a subscription to People magazine. – Eric

List of titles includes:

House of Mirth by Edith Wharton –  read by Juliet Sharp played by Katie Cassidy

The Lorax by Dr. Suess – Mentioned by Dan

Colette by Gigi – Blair read this on a bench in Paris

Jane Austen books – Pride and Prejudice, Emma, Mansfield Park, Northanger Abbey, Persuasion

Charles Dickens novels – A Tale of Two Cities, A Christmas Carol, Oliver Twist, Les Grandes Espérances

C. S. Lewis books – The Chronicles of Narnia, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland

William Shakespeare – Othello, Romeo and Juliet, MacBeth, Henry V, Hamlet, King Lear

A few other famous works, Rabbit Redux by John Updike, Cyrano De Bergerac by Edmond Rostand, Les Liaisons Dangereuses, The Crucible (Arthur Miller), Wuthering Heights (Emily Bronte), I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Dr. Maya Angelou, The Art of War, The Crucible (Arthur Miller), Madame Bovary, The Old Man and the Sea (Ernest Hemingway), The Beautiful and Damned (F. Scott Fitzgerald), Cinderella (Charles Perrault), The Canterbury Tales by Geoffrey Chaucer, Faust, In Cold Blood by Truman Capote, Anna Karenina by Tolstoy, Walden, The Great Gatsby (F. Scott Fitzgerald), and Beloved by Toni Morrison.

There, I have just given you a reading list that every good high school student or Ivy League hopeful should have. Some of which I have read. My favorite author is Jane Austen. A close second is Louisa May Alcott, as I just love Little Women and the 1994 film starring Winona Ryder. But Austen’s Sense and Sensibility (1995) just amazes me every time. That along with Pride and Prejudice (2005) and Emma (1996).

The rich seem to be highly educated. They also tend to get ahead in life. Therefore, be well-read.

However, these trust fund babies did end up leaving college and higher education after a while to set out for their own fortunes in the real world.

For people like us a college degree is just an accessory.  – Chuck

So, this too let’s you know that it is not always about what you know, but who you know.

You never know who you may run into at expensive coffee shops, libraries, restaurants, college, and hotels like the Palace in New York.

So, go build up those relationships.

MONEY AND RELATIONSHIPS

Just to clarify, I do think you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy. – Dan

True words indeed.

I read, like, five self-help blogs on how to turn friends into lovers. Yes, they used that word. – Dan

Come on, Cece’s heart pumps secrets and gin. – Dan

And there was lots of secrets on this show. Relationships and secrets were everywhere.

Sex is meaningful, like art. And you don’t rush art.– Dan

All great things are built or done slowly.

If you watched this show, then you may remember the season 3 episode with Lady Gaga. Here is her take on relationships that is so Blair Waldorf.

“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” ― Lady Gaga

Marriage

Settling down means death. Less sex, more silence. – Blair on marriage

Blair also had some of the best lines on the show. EVERY. SINGLE. EPISODE.

Case in point, check this out.

And she actually said this too.

That’s the thing. You need to be cold to be queen. Anne Boleyn thought only with her heart, and she got her head chopped off. So her daughter Elizabeth made a vow never to marry a man. She married a country. Forget boys. Keep your eye on the prize, Jenny Humphrey. You can’t make people love you, but you can make them fear you. For what it’s worth, you’re my queen. I choose you. – Blair

As, I am a history buff and studied up on Queen Elizabeth I of England, my mouth fell open when she said this.

Check it out here.

And I am not the only one who feels she should get some praise for her talented banter.

C: It’s a facility for the disturbed or addicted.

B: You must have your own wing.

C: You don’t get enough credit for your wit.

– Chuck and Blair

If you go back with an uncertain heart, there will be drama and disaster for all. – Blair

You better believe it. In life and relationships, to be successful, you have to commit.

LOVE

B:Love me?

C:Always.

– Blair and Chuck

They were the best characters on the show, in my humble opinion. The two of them together was gold. Take a look for yourself.

But ultimately, I have learned that love is what we are all looking for.

MONEY DOESN’T BUY HAPPINESS

Trouble is moving in, and it’s looking to make the Upper East Side it’s bi*ch.– Gossip Girl

You would think that folks in tuxedos and ball gowns are the happiest, but these people seemed so unhappy.

Happiness can’t be measured in things. It comes from having the things that really matter like people who love you for who you are.

Doing the right thing takes courage and strength. At least that’s what I’ve heard. – Blair

Well, I hope you had fun going down memory lane with me and I will bid you adieu in the best possible way to end this post.

You know you love me – XOXO,

Gossip Girl (I mean Greenbacks Magnet) wink, wink 😉