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Money and Life Lessons from the film Beyond the Lights

“Truth is the only safe ground to stand on.” – Elizabeth Cady Stanton

Beyond the Lights was released November 14th 2014. I went on a rare visit to the theater that weekend because I loved the trailer with the Sia song Chandelier where she was out on that balcony. It stopped me in my tracks. So, I decided to go see the film. I was impressed and that doesn’t happen often.

I was really and pleasantly surprised by the film, but mostly the depth of the actress playing the lead, Gugu Mbatha-Raw (from the film Belle).

The fashion was amazing. All her outfits and costume choices were on FIRE. Every dress was a showstopper. And she pulled it off. The hair, the attitude, the choreography, everything.

I thought it was Rihanna when she first appeared as a music superstar on the screen. She blew me away. This actress was amazing in every scene she did. EVERY. SINGLE. SCENE.

This is the best film I have ever scene revolving or about a pop star.

When I left that theater, all I knew was a star was born. I can’t remember the last time I felt like that. The film was really touching and really moved me. She showed such a range of emotions. An excellent actress indeed.

According to Rotten Tomatoes, this is the movie info, Beyond the Lights is the story of Noni, the music world’s latest superstar. But not all is what it seems, and the pressures of fame have Noni on the edge – until she meets Kaz Nicol, a young cop and aspiring politician who’s been assigned to her detail. Drawn to each other, Noni and Kaz fall fast and hard, despite the protests of those around them who urge them to put their career ambitions ahead of their romance. But it is ultimately Kaz’s love that gives Noni the courage to find her own voice and break free to become the artist she was meant to be. (c) Relativity

Now, that you have the background, let’s talk about what happens beyond the lights.

EVERYONE WANTS TO COME IN 1ST 

Do you want to be a runner up, or do you want to be a winner? – Noni’s mother and mom-ager, played by Minnie Driver 

As a young girl, Noni has a voice like no other. Her mother notices her talent and signs her up for a talent show singing none other than the famous Nina Simone’s Blackbird.

However, the ending of this scene was very sad. It would set up the balance of power between mother and daughter that would play out for the rest of the film.

What you learn is that as important it is to win, you also must feel good about what you are doing and know why you are doing it. Passion is great, but not if you are not able to use it.

MASTERPIECE DOESN’T ALWAYS MEAN SUCCESS

She goes from that sweet little girl into an adult in the very next scene.  From an innocent little kitten and sweet baby angel into a video vixen.  She perfected the pop-star persona. Down to the constant changing of her very detailed nail designs. See for yourself.

This scene is immediately followed up by her first music award win.

Noni does not seem very happy.

I always thought lots of people wanted this success. Which her mother states several times throughout the film.

It is not enough just to have success, if it is not done the right way.

ALL THAT GLITTERS ISN’T GOLD

Noni can no longer take the fake life she has set herself up in. She doesn’t want to do this anymore.

What I learned here is that if you no longer hold your head up high and can look yourself in the mirror, then what’s the point. You have to treat yourself with the utmost self-respect.

All around her there was a lack of respect for her as a woman and an artist. You have to tell people how you want to be treated. People can only do what you let them. Speak up and talk to a doctor or adult and let them know how you feel. Don’t let anyone silence you into submission.

NEED TO FREE UP THE SCHEDULE

Sometimes you just have to be free. You can’t work yourself non-stop and to the bone.

There were times when there was just no light in Noni’s eyes. It was sad to see her so hurt. This woman has a record contract and is about to release an album. She is staying in the best hotels and holding press conferences. The only problem was that no one wanted to hear what she had to say.

WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?

Progress rarely comes from those who are content and secure. It comes from those who are unsettled by what they’ve seen. – Kaz, played by Nate Parker

THE PRESSURE IS REAL WHEN YOU ARE SELLING A FANTASY

MILES HIGH AND YET STILL SO FAR FROM HAPPINESS

IT’S LONELY AT THE TOP

Best music scene in the film, the performance of Private Property by Noni.

The music was so good in the film that it felt like she could have been an artist. I liked the soundtrack, but you wanted more Noni.

The songs were great. Very pop feel. That’s because they were written by none other than The Dream (he wrote Beyonce’s Single Ladies and Rihanna’s Umbrella).

MONEY IS HOLLOW AND EMPTY

At one point, she tells him this is my new crib. A swanky place in Los Angeles. It looked every bit of a million dollar bachelorette pad. Yet, she was miserable.

Money is just a tool. It is not good or bad. Your actions give it meaning and power. I have learned to choose wisely if I am going to spend my dime. I watch my coins carefully and spend wisely.

See the film for yourself

It has been 4 years, and no matter how many times I see this film it makes me feel something bigger is going on behind all those lights. If even a fraction of this film is what some artists have gone threw, I know some changes need to be made in how we treat people and how we listen to them.

Forget casinos, bet on yourself

“There is a gigantic difference between earning a great deal of money and being rich.” —Marlene Dietrich

You bet there is. I am a firm believer in being rich in assets. Those are the things that will help you build wealth. They attract money to you.

I once read a wealthy gentleman online state he wants to be cash poor and asset rich.

Basically, he is looking to have more assets than a fat paycheck. He knows money can slip through your fingers. Assets do not easily slip away.

The bigger the paycheck means the higher the taxes you pay Uncle Sam. In contrast, assets usually go up in value and earn interest over time. Capital gains tax is lower than income taxes.

So, if you want to bet the farm, then put it all on staying in the black and not the red.

CASINOS ARE NOT WHERE THE WEALTHY ARE

I know you see all the television shows and advertisements telling you to go to Vegas. However, that is just a way to get you there to spend money. Most wealthy folks are not rolling the dice with their finances.

Casinos are designed to separate you from your money. Just like subscriptions. Read my posts Do not cash out your retirement accounts and  America is the land of subscriptions.

I have read enough blogs and books to know that you must hang around like-minded people.

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “You’re the average of the five people spend the most time with.” And so is your net worth.

We are influenced by those we associate with. These relationships over time can have a profound effect on our lives.

Therefore, you must choose wisely when it comes to friends, business partners, and spouses.

The wealthy are about building assets. Therefore, you are not likely to see them at the casino at four o’clock on a Monday afternoon. They are out volunteering, networking, and closing business deals.

HOW DO CASINOS MAKE MONEY

A Canadian study stated that 75% of customers provide only 4% of casino revenues. It’s the habitual gambler that keeps the casino in business.

If you ever saw Mark Wahlberg in The Gambler, then you know who I’m talking about.

Computer gaming and slot machines are all the rage when it comes to gambling.

Most players lose more than they win. I don’t like those odds. Therefore, I do not gamble.

That means people with gambling addictions are the most vulnerable. Or you can become addicted after getting a taste of winning like in the film 21.

Slot machines are, like credit, addictive. Casinos actually can make you poorer. This exacerbates inequality.

CASINOS WILL HELP THE ECONOMY RIGHT?

Not so fast. Let’s take a look at Atlantic City.

Back in 1977, casino advocates made promises that casinos would help give the economy a boost by providing jobs. Don’t get me wrong, they did provide jobs. However, the surrounding local business owners did not get the foot traffic coming into the casinos.

The money that casinos make, stays with them.

Many local businesses had to close up shop. The retail economy collapsed all around Atlantic Avenue in New Jersey. Several casinos have actually shut down since 2014. That means jobs were lost not gained.

HOW TO BET ON YOURSELF

Devote all your time, money, and resources into yourself.

Use your hard earned money to invest in your education, training, and business.

When I was watching David Tutera plan those weddings on television, I learned he wasn’t doing this for, in the illustrious words of Sia, cheap thrills. He did it for a living. And earned good enough money to have a nice home, wardrobe, and chauffeur.

David started party planning and entertaining over 20 years ago. He just invested his time and money into himself. Eventually, he found what he was good at and then he just stuck with it.

There are countless tales of people out there that have found a skill they are good at, practiced and developed it, then went out and started earning a living at it.

Read up on some biographies. See for yourself. I recommend reading anyone you have an interest in or trailblazers such as Gloria Steinem, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Franklin Roosevelt, Charlie Chaplin, Oprah Winfrey, Winston Churchill, or Nelson Mandela.

WHAT CAN YOU DO NOW?

First, I feel people need to assess their situation. For example, when I was growing up I noticed that a lot of kids were not very into studying and really focused on their academics. However, many wealthy people I saw on television always advocated for education.

I figured, why not listen to other successful people?

I started studying and reading more. Especially, thanks to shows like Reading Rainbow hosted by Star Trek’s Next Generation alum LaVar Burton. I would go to the Book Mobile and get tons of books.

Much of my focus was less on having fun and more on learning. Saturday mornings were spent reading on my parent’s couch. Sunday afternoons were spent reading the comics and learning new things and vocabulary words.

I invested lots of time and money into my education and health.

And all of this paid off in spades.

I have four retirement accounts, a home, a car (no monthly payment), and save and invest upwards of 50% of my income.

It took me over a decade to build those things. But it all started with getting an education.

Sure, college helped, but it was sheer grit, discipline and determination that got me where I am today.

THE FUTURE MR. OR MRS. FI

If you want to have a chance at financial independence, I suggest you do the following:

  • Focus on learning more about money and finance
  • Stay away from debt
  • Get a good education (the best you can afford)
  • Pay for cars and appliances in cash
  • Opt for a 15-year mortgage
  • Stay away from vices (narcotics, alcohol, gambling, shopping)
  • Hang around like-minded people
  • Save 20% or more of your income
  • Invest 15% or more of your income

If you can do at least two of the items listed here, you have got a shot at making it into the top 10% of households and becoming financially independent.