“If you would be wealthy, think of saving as well as getting.” —Benjamin Franklin
Growing up one of my favorite toys was my piggybank.
I used to put all the spare change and money I found or received into it.
It was my ice cream truck money.
I just loved having my own.
It was such as source of pride, freedom, and independence because I was allowed to spend my money on the things I wanted.
That is how I want everyone to feel.
A sense of ownership and accountability over oneself and your actions.
In order to do this, you have to go back to saving the old-fashioned way, like putting money inside that old piggybank.
Here’s how.
A HOUSE IS NOT A PIGGYBANK
First, you need to stay away from borrowing. And if you truly must borrow, make sure to only get what is absolutely necessary. Every dollar you borrow just keeps you in debt.
Case in point, if you do a cash out refinance on your home, that can reset your mortgage debt-free clock and cause you to owe more interest over the life of the loan.
No one wants that.
You need to keep your hands off of large piles of cash. This includes the equity in your home, your 401(k), and easy access savings accounts.
It’s like losing weight. You have to keep your hands out of the cookie jar. In this instance, it’s the money jar. If you keep taking out of it, you will never reach your goals.
Forget taking out huge auto loans and personal loans. You do not need to drive a BMW to the airport on the way to Jamaica. That is the road to broke, if you cannot afford it.
I would rather you drive a Honda to the Grand Canyon, if this will keep you out of debt.
HOW TO START SAVING YOUR COINS
The most important step is to decide to save. If you want to save more, you have to earn more, slash expenses, or both.
Set a goal.
I started out with a goal of $50 per month and worked my way up to saving $13,000 a year by increasing yearly savings goals.
You have to write it down. Otherwise, it is a wish and not a goal. A goal requires action. It starts with writing it down. A written plan is 80% more likely to succeed.
I started saving my change. I would put it into a jar or bag.
I would save up anywhere from $25 to $100 dollars in change and then deposit this into the bank.
When you see the money add up and feel how heavy that coin jar or bag is, it gives you incentive to keep going. After, mastering the coin game, I moved on to bigger gains.
TURN SAVING COINS INTO SAVING DOLLARS
Then I started turning my attention onto dollars.
I started with manually transferring $50 per month into my savings account.
From there, I set up an automatic deposit of $25 every two weeks.
However, I was also getting tired of having to pay ATM fees. So, I found a way around this.
I would have to either go to the bank and take out a large enough amount of money to get me through the week, go to free ATM’s, spend less, or go to stores and do cash back.
For instance, grocery stores will allow you to do a debit card cash back of anywhere from $100-$300 depending on what store you go to.
Other places, like the convenience store, may allow you to get between $20-$80 cash back with a purchase.
I slowly worked my way up to saving more.
Every year, I would re-evaluate what my saving goals were, I would write it down, and figure out a way to make it happen.
If you zero sum budget, then you know when something gets paid off or you eliminate any type of expense that money gets freed up and must go somewhere or it disappears. Like all good dogs, it goes into heaven, I call it dollars heaven.
I started saving my money first from income I earned, and then spending what was left over.
I would decide to save $300 per month and figure out how much more to bring in to increase my cash flow or what I could cut in my budget to lower my expenses and then save that money.
It went down like this:
Year 1: Save $600.
Year 2: Save $1,800.
Year 3: Save $2,500.
Year 4: Save $3,600.
Year 5: Save $10,000.
Year 6: Save $13,333.
WHERE TO PLACE YOUR MONEY
Since, I knew I did not want to depend on having to go to the bank or grocery store every week, I decided to place money into a cash box.
I would put no more than a few hundred bucks in it.
I was placing my savings into several savings accounts such as regular savings and money market savings.
In addition, I would label my savings accounts to ear mark that money for things I wanted to pay for such as a vacation, car, home down payment, or college.
I started doing 5% of my income to now saving over 41% of my gross income!
It took years to get to this point.
Once I made the decision to save, I wrote it down, and created a plan.
It took over 5 years to get here!
So, take my advice, do not rush to try and do so much and then do nothing.
Take small steps toward bigger ones. That is the key to building wealth. The kind of wealth that lasts takes time to build. There are no shortcuts. Only patience, discipline, consistency, and time.
“If we command our wealth, we shall be rich and free. If our wealth commands us, we are poor indeed.” —Edmund Burke
I remember watching an episode of Property Brothers and they were telling this couple that you do not want to spend too much or overspend on a home and end up being house rich and cash poor.
They instead wanted the couple to buy a fixer-upper, do some sweat equity, renovate the home, and put that money into their pockets.
Basically, when you buy a turn-key home, the work has already been done and you are paying the homeowners for the money they put into the home on renovations.
However, then you buy the house at a markup.
This is due to the fact that they may pay $20,000 for renovations and then the property may increase in value by $40,000 or double what they paid. Thus, allowing them to increase the purchase price of the property, ergo you pay them to renovate.
That’s pretty steep for move-in-ready.
If you do the work yourself, you get to keep the value that the home increases by.
This means buying a fixer-upper for $300,000 and putting in $20,000 for renovations will push the home value to $340,000 and let you keep the $20k in equity for yourself instead of putting it in someone else’s pocket.
So, let me show you how not to be cash poor, but house rich.
WHAT DOES HOUSE RICH, CASH POOR MEAN?
According to Investopedia, “house poor is a situation that describes a person who spends a large proportion of his or her total income on home ownership, including mortgage payments, property taxes, maintenance and utilities.”
Basically, you are paying more for your home than you can afford or simply buying too much home.
If you have to pay more than 40% of your income for your dwelling, then you will become cash poor.
Matter of fact, if the value of your home decreases, you can be both house and cash poor.
When you are house rich that means all your money or wealth is tied up in your home. The home equity may be something like $150,000, but you only have $1,500 in the bank. That is not even enough to cover one month’s mortgage payment!
In order to shift this, you would want $40,000 in the bank, and to owe less than $150k on your home. That $40k would be enough to pay one year’s worth of expenses including mortgage payments ($1,600 x 12 = $19,200).
You would need a fixed rate mortgage to help you do this.
STAY AWAY FROM VARIABLE RATE LOANS
The ARM, or “adjustable rate mortgage” loan is too dangerous. Any loan product that can change at the drop of a hat and without a moment’s notice is too risky.
Let’s think about this for a second. Why is anything at a drop of a hat so bad? Well, did you ever see the movie Tombstone?
The idiom is likely to have come from the Old West, when duels would begin with a signal consisting of a man grabbing his hat and thrusting it toward the ground, before weapons are drawn.
Is this any way you want any part of your life to be lived?! Absolutely, not.
Entertaining in the movies sure, but not for real life.
This type of trickery should be left out of the equation.
First, lenders approve you for wayyy too much. Second, they tell you it’s okay to only pay the interest when it’s really not. As you cannot get out of debt, without paying off the principal of a loan.
And going for the trifecta of trickery, the third thing lenders do, and this is the hat trick, your mortgage payments jump so high Bryce Harper couldn’t catch it!
Your mortgage payments spikes upward too sharply for most folks to keep up.
A reasonable $1,600 mortgage payment could reset and go up to $2,400 in a single month!
That’s no joke.
I had a conversation with someone this actually happened to. Shocks like this are hard for most people to fathom and continue to live comfortably.
A fixed rate loan allows you to plan the monthly budget in advance.
When you how much you monthly nut has to cover, you are just better off.
HOW TO BE CASH RICH
Buying a home for less than you can afford is a start.
If you are approved for $400,000, then slash this amount by 25%. This equals $400k x 0.25 = $100,000!
You heard me. Then bank says $400k, and then you say: I’ll go $300k.
In one fell swoop, you both cut the amount of home you buy and monthly payment by 25%
You then take that $100,000 and over the course of the 15, 20, or 30 years you are paying your mortgage, you put this same amount into mutual funds.
You could do the S&P 500 index. Do whatever you want.
The goals are to simultaneously invest that money and pay down your mortgage.
For instance, that $100k over 30 years translates to investing $277 per month for 360 months. That would allow you to save anywhere from $500,000 to over $1 million depending on your rate of return through compound interest.
That means over a 30 year time period you have paid off a worth an estimated $300,000 or possibly more as home value may increase during this time and have an additional $800,000 in investments.
You would have a net worth of $1.1 million and would put you in the top 10% of wealthy households in America. See my post; Join the top 10% club for more on this.
WORDS OF WISDOM
A few words of wisdom to follow:
Buy less home than you can afford
Spend no more than 25% of your income on the housing payment
Invest the difference of the savings you received from not paying the full amount approved for
Stick to a housing budget
Have a god size emergency fund of 8 months or more
It sounds so simple, but most folks are actually living beyond their means and buying my house than they can afford. I have actually seen people in their 50s signing up for 30 year mortgages! Holy crap! The odds of paying off this home are slim at that age.
If you can follow the advice I give above, you could find yourself at the top of the economic pyramid.
If you use a credit card, you don’t want to be rich. – Mark Cuban star of “Shark Tank”
According to CNBC, Americans have an average credit card balance of $6,375 and owe a record breaking $1 trillion in credit card debt, which is the most ever recorded in history.
Investing that money instead could net you anywhere from $50,000 to $200,000, depending on how long you invest it and getting a return on investment of around 9%.
And that does not include an employer match or if you invest more. You could save and invest your way to a small fortune thanks to compound interest.
Here are some ways to avoid paying interest.
MAKE IT AUTOMATIC
I’m sure to many of your out there this is not new advice. However, how many people are actually doing this is another story.
Setting your bills up on automatic payments is a great way to avoid missing payments.
Credit card companies can levy a hefty fee for missed payments. The most recent I read was $38! Forget that. I rather use that money for gas or some other function. Anything is better than paying fees.
In addition, credit card companies can ratchet up your interest rate to 29.99% for missing a single payment!
That means almost near perfect timing of paying all bills.
The closest you can get to doing this is to make all your payments automatic.
Set up everything you can on autopay.
You can put the gym membership, cell phone, utilities and insurance payments on a credit card. Then set up automatic payments with your bank to pay that credit card off at the end of every month and you’re done.
PAY DOWN YOUR DEBTS
Paying off high interest debt is a must on the road to wealth.
Every dollar you spend towards interest cannot work for you compounding interest instead.
Think about it. If you pay $700 per month servicing debt and pay 50% of that in interest, that money is gone. Dust in the wind my friend.
If you can do the polar opposite, investing the entire $700 and earning interest instead, you have a clear path to building wealth over time.
That is the equivalent of $8,400 a year you are investing as opposed to using that amount to pay debt in which $4,200 goes to principal and the other $4,200 in interest and that money you never see again.
Many may not know this, but credit unions are not allowed to charge more than 18% on loans or credit cards (unless you default).
The savings gain alone from not having to pay some credit companies 22-27% interest is huge!
You could save anywhere from $50-150 bucks or more per month with a lower interest rate. That’s another $600-1,800 per year!
Just something to consider.
REFINANCE YOUR MORTGAGE
If you can lower the interest rate on your mortgage, you can save $100’s or $1,000’s of dollars a year.
In addition, if you can change your repayment period from 30 years to 20, 15, or 10, then you can save a ton of money. Maybe not tons of money monthly or right away, but over the life of the loan.
For example, a $250,000 mortgage at a 3.92% rate over 30 years will cost $425,533. You reduce that to 15 years and total output is $331,058. That is a difference of upwards of $100,000!
If you take that $100,000 and put that into index funds, you could have anywhere from $600,000 to $1 million dollars over 30 years with a minimum 6% return on investment.
Many folks will buy at least 2-3 homes in their lifetimes. If every new purchase resets your debt-free mortgage clock by 30 years, then you are likely to spend most of your working years in debt.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is actually the norm for most people.
You do not want to be normal. You want to be different and extraordinary because that gets results.
If more folks put down 10-20% and got 15 year mortgages, you would be better off in the long run.
Paying on one item for 30 years is a long time.
A lot can happen in 30 years. Heck, a lot can happen even in 10 years!
Retire that debt ASAP or as fast as you can.
You can build an in-law suite, swimming pool, and remodel the kitchen after the debt is gone and the home is paid off.
People used to have mortgage burning parties, after paying off their home. Let’s try to bring that back shall we.
I have recently read in the news personal finance experts expressing their concerns over mortgage payments that Americans are making.
Most wanted the debt paid just before you retire. Others said get rid of it in your 40’s. Like around age 45. Why you ask? Since, this is the point where you are halfway through your career, it is best to spend the second half of it working toward building capital to fund your nest egg.
That is excellent advice.
Basically, you spend the first 20 years paying off all you owe, and the last 20 years building up your retirement accounts you will need in your golden years.
SUMMING IT UP
All you have to do is follow these four steps and you can avoid paying interest or at least a whole lot less of it.
Remember these 4 steps:
Make it automatic
Pay down your debts
Bank with a credit union
Get a 15 year mortgage
Sounds pretty simple right?
Well, you would be surprised by how many people are not doing any of the things stated above.
Therefore, if you can start doing even one of these things now, you are well on your way to building up your bank account.
And in the illustrious words of Porky the Pig, “That’s All Folks!”
Financial independence is the ability to live from the income of your own personal resources. – Jim Rohn
Reading headlines in the news about how boomerang kids are returning home in droves is quite alarming.
When I was growing up, I saw lots of young adults leave home and never return. They got jobs and worked their way up to where they were trying to go.
However, a couple decades have changed all that.
One of the biggest culprits: student loans.
The cost of college has outpaced inflation. Therefore, it is now up to families to find affordable ways to get a college degree.
Otherwise, your kids may just end up back in your basement, or worse, in their childhood rooms that they could hardly keep clean when they were debt-free teenagers. Gulp!
The reason that so many millennial’s need parental assistance in paying their rent is because they shoulder the bulk of the $1.4 trillion in student loan debt.
However, borrowing or taking out deposits from the bank of Mom and Dad is not a good idea and can have lingering consequences for the parents as well as the kids and future generations.
Here are the reasons why young adults should stop relying on their parents and become independent as fast as they can.
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE WILL TAKE LONGER TO REACH
We are living in a time when more people discuss this phenomenon called FIRE (financial independence retire early).
Although, this should be taken with a grain of salt, as many people will need to save 50% or more of their income for a decade or two to make this dream a reality. And that is not always possible or feasible to do, to say the least.
That being said, the decision is always yours whether or not you retire at 42 or 62. The point is to be able to one day have the option to retire.
When you lean on your parents (the Rents) to pay your bills, it can delay the transition into adulthood.
I have noticed when people have no safety net, they are a lot more resilient and cautious about what they do and spend.
For example, to rely less on Mom and Dad later in life as an adult, you could do the following:
Live with a couple roommates
Pick a smaller apartment to live in (say 700 square ft.)
Go without a car or at least buy a smaller, more affordable one
Commute to college and save by not paying room and board; therefore, requiring less or no student loans
It seems to be the people that get off their parent’s payroll ASAP are the ones that are able to become financially independent the fastest because they have no other choice.
When the only option is self-reliance, then you learn to live lean really quick. And low fixed expenses are how you will be able to start saving money.
A SUBSIDY SHOULD HAVE LIMITS
For those that may not know, right now the Direct Stafford Loans offer a three-year subsidy (you may have to ask your loan servicer if your loan has this feature) for students entering repayment.
Those funds give graduates time to find suitable employment and create a budget for their lifestyles in order to repay what they owe.
This cushion is a great way to help young people get on more solid financial footing.
What you may or may not have noticed is that there is a three-year window and then it closes shut.
And do you know why? It is because when you offer people a crutch, then unless they have the drive, perseverance, determination and the will to be self-sufficient, they are likely to use the crutch forever.
You have to limit aid, otherwise, people come to rely on it for all their days.
This includes the funds from your parents.
Get off their bankroll as fast as you can, or you may come to depend on it for the rest of your life.
Let’s be honest. Nothing lasts forever. Even milk, has an expiration date.
You would rather have the option of saying no than hearing the words: We’re cutting you off.
RELYING ON SELF GETS BETTER RESULTS
I know that having help is at times necessary to keep a roof over your head. I would not tell parents not to help their children. I am asking children to tell their parents, that they no longer would like their financial assistance.
Therefore, you become the adult or hero in your own life and story.
If you read any number of stories about the rich and successful, you will notice that many did not pull themselves up by their bootstraps, but had just enough help to get things running and then go it alone.
When you allow someone to write you a check, you are also giving them some form of say so in your life. This de facto control you are giving up every time you cash that check, has far reaching and lasting consequences.
You may want to live in SoHo, but the parents say they are only willing to pay for something closer work or at a specific dollar amount. Thereby, giving them more control over your life.
When you write the check, you have all control. You say when, where, and how much.
No need to wait on anyone to give you the green-light or hand you the money. You can make decisions for yourself and might I add, faster than if you had to wait for help or other form of assistance.
Thereby, causing you to not miss opportunities because you can say yes without having to check in with anyone else.
You can say yes to that job, internship, business opportunity, apartment lease, car purchase, or vacation.
Just something to think about.
INDEPENDENCE IS ATTRACTIVE
Independence, especially financial independence, is attractive.
When you are an adult, you do not have to tell anyone you are one.
They can see it in your actions.
Are you out at the bar every night? Or are you at home, working on that new app your developing to earn enough money for a down payment on a house?
Do you spend with reckless abandon? Or are you cognizant of what you are spending, and where your money is going?
People are drawn to confident people. It is an attractive quality. They say like attracts like.
Nothing exudes confidence like someone who is in control of their money and time.
Are you looking for a partner? If so, ask yourself what qualities are you looking for in one.
For instance, do you want someone who buys everything in three’s, likes to lease cars, and maxes out their credit cards every month?
If the answer is no, then you may want to make sure you are not doing any of those things as well.
Everyone wants to date up, but they forget that they too need to get themselves together in order to attract someone worthy of their time and vice versa.
When you are independent, people want to be around you. You attract jobs, opportunities, people, and money when you have your own.
GENERATIONAL WEALTH INTERFERENCE
The New York Times has reported that 40% f people in their early 20s receive financial assistance from their parents.
Parents are paying for everything from rent to car insurance.
The problem with this is that every dollar that parents give their children, is money that is not working for them in building their financial house and keeping it secure.
If parents have the money to give their children for a down payment or college education, then I am all for it. By all means, help the kids out.
However, what many kids may or may not know is that Mom and Dad cannot afford some of these expenses.
It is one thing to help someone with a one-time expense, like a down payment on a home.
It is another thing entirely to help pay someone’s rent or mortgage every month with no end or deadline in sight.
Many baby boomers are going into retirement unprepared. Therefore, they usually do not have the funds to give the kids or grand-kids because they need that money themselves.
How do I know? Well, I ask people. And many have said that their are finances precarious and funds are limited. Many give until it hurts. However, it not just hurts them, but also their heirs.
The Sandwich Generation is a generation of people who care for their aging parents while supporting their own children.
By not taking or limiting financial help from parents, it limits the help you may need to give your own parents when you are raising your kids.
Let me share with you this story for some perspective.
I read an article about a man who decided to become writer. While he did pretty well for himself, the family still struggled financially.
This is what happened during the course of their lives:
His wife quit working and became a stay at home mom
Their daughters were given the option to go to the private colleges of their choice, even though the family could not truly afford it
His father helped them pay for college for the kids; thereby, making him forfeit any future inheritance for him or his children for the sake of present conveniences
They also paid for their two daughters weddings out-of-pocket, with empty pockets
His wife has been out of the workforce so long she is unable to find reasonably paid work
He works 7 days a week
They have no savings and NO RETIREMENT
From the example above, you can see how paying for present pleasure or not planning for expenses can harm you and your family down the line.
This is scary stuff. Their inability to say no and set firm limits on what they were willing to spend has caused long-term consequences. They may have to rely on their children for financial assistance in their old age as opposed to passing on wealth.
I urge you to reconsider.
Let this post be your wake up call. A call to arms, if you will. A call to financial arms. To arm yourself with financial knowledge, so that nothing can stop you from working toward your goals and building a solid financial future; independently.
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. – Dr. Maya Angelou
TO SUBSCRIBE OR NOT SUBSCRIBE, THAT IS THE QUESTION
America used to be known as the land of opportunity and dreams. And for some and in many ways it still is. However, things have changed dramatically over the last two to three decades.
One of the biggest changes I have noticed can be described in one word: subscriptions.
When I was growing up, you bought the thing one time and you were done. Transaction over.
Today, many places want you to subscribe to their services and pay them every month. I am not on board with this.
Even Jay Leno agrees with me. He told CNBC, “Here is the money, give me the thing, transaction over.”
He told CNBC Make It: “When you own something and you don’t have to write checks every month, you’re just better off.”
I couldn’t agree more. I can’t stand installments for anything. It means you earn money and then have to give it away. Period.
I learned that if I could cut down or out the installment payments in my life that I would be better off and would get to keep my money.
Sure you will have bills like utilities – gas, water, electric and insurance, food, etc.
Exactly, the luxury items have stayed the same: high-priced. However, the cost of college, daycare, education, and the mortgage have all gone up.
Even rent can be insane. There is no cap on rent. So, it can go up every year with inflation. Unfortunately, that is just a cost of life. You need a place to lay your head. You need shelter.
But I urge people to consider carefully what type and how much home they buy.
A HOME IS YOUR CASTLE BUT DOESN’T HAVE TO ACTUALLY BE ONE
I am all for the Huey P. Long saying that Every Man a King, but I think a woman is also the queen of her castle.
I prefer to be able to clean my own home. To be able to sweat over lonely labor, have sense of pride in a job that is well done is what I need. And just FYI, for those who like to stay in shape and are into physical fitness, cleaning is also a workout.
After reading the book Nickel and Dimed by Barbara Ehrenreich, in where she worked undercover with a big house-cleaning chain in her book, I feel I am better off doing the work myself.
Barbara Ehrenreich said, “I had been taught by my mother, a compulsive housekeeper who employed water so hot you needed rubber gloves to get into it,” to basically clean her own home.
Paying a service is another bill. I say if you can afford it and it will free up time you want for yourself, then do it.
However, I also have learned the bigger the home, the more help you need to clean it.
It gets tougher to clean a home yourself once it is more than 3,500 square feet. That’s when you usually have to hire help.
Paying the gardener, maid, chef, and chauffeur all adds up.
Why not purchase a home that is 3,000 square feet or less? Not only are they cheaper, but also easier to maintain.
That’s just my $0.02.
SUBSCRIBERS BEWARE
I have seen countless companies start subscription services. Some are pretty cheap and then others are downright outrageous.
I just started noticing this new way of the subscription life myself fairly recently.
I first started noticing it in high school. I wanted to buy Harlequin romance books, because I mean come on, who doesn’t like Happy Ever After’s (HEAs)?
And to my delight, in each book was a subscription notice. They offered 2 free books as a bonus! I was like sign me up. Then things started to go downhill for me from there.
Let me just start by saying, I am a huge Harlequin romance fan. It was not that they did not provide quality service or great reads. Quite the opposite. It was the quantity and price of the service that caused my woes.
I started getting books like every 3 or 4 weeks. It was expensive too, at least to a teenager, it cost about $15 a month. Some books I didn’t even want, but they shipped them in packs of four, which were chosen for you.
As much as I loved Harlequin, I had to cancel my subscription. They sent books faster than I could read and bills faster than I could pay.
That was my first taste of the subscription life. It left a bad taste in my mouth. One that, like Maya Angelou said, I never forgot how it made me feel. And all these years later, that one event was the catalyst for me not ever wanting to have subscription anything.
So, when something doesn’t feel right, listen to yourself. Trust your gut and make some changes.
I can walk away from anything. Relationships, bad jobs, roommates, you name it. Even if I am comfortable, I have still walked away from people, places or things that were not in my best interest.
Chris Rock said, “comfort is the poison.”
I have learned to hold on loosely to everything so you are not so rattled when change comes.
YOU KNOW WHO THEY ARE
There are lots of companies that offer subscriptions.
I pretty much avoid them all.
Everyone is out there trying to take the money out of your pocket and put it into theirs. Everyone is trying to separate you from your money. Don’t let them.
Expenses would occur once or infrequently when I was growing up. Now everything is a monthly subscription. Even toothbrushes are turning into a subscription service!
I buy products and stick with them until I get my monies worth. I bought a car for $30k, 15 years and six months ago. My payment was $448.65. So, $30,000/186 = the equivalent of paying $161 per month on this vehicle or $2,000 per year not including gas and maintenance.
It’s American made so I have not ever had to pay $3,000 or more in a single visit. My last oil change cost me less than $50!
I have more than got my money’s worth out of this car. I paid this car off in 2009. That money has been going to my retirement account ever since.
Companies now try to offer you the world and all this personalized attention and concierge service, until you stop paying. Whether or not it is by choice or you cannot afford to pay anymore.
It’s like trickery. Or in some cases like the old bait and switch. They promise you the world on the way in and engrave your initials on everything and then can’t remember your name on the way out.
What’s that Lucy? Another football for me to kick. No thank you.
Just say no to subscriptions. It will save you a fortune.
Here are some places that offer subscriptions – gym memberships, clothing stores, book publishers, magazines, and newspapers.
List of well-known companies that offer subscriptions and the cost of some pricing plans:
Apple iTunes $9.99 monthly
Under Armour (ArmourBox) 4-6 items of gear pay only for kept items) $80+ per box
The Wall Street Journal $100-$400 annually
Kiplinger Magazine $6.99+ annually
Forbes Magazine $20 annually
The New York Times $14.99 monthly
Deer Park Water $12.99 monthly (minimum)
Spotify $9.99 monthly
Hulu $7.99 monthly
Netflix $9.99 monthly
Amazon Prime $99 annually (from $79)
List of less well-known companies that offer subscription and the cost of some pricing plans:
Quip oral care tooth brush delivery $10 per user per month! For a toothbrush!
Stitch Fix $20 style fee
Le Tote $59 a month
Rent the Runway $139 a month!
Shoedazzle $39.95 a month
Gwynnie Bee $49 a month
Fabletics $25 per month or box
Her Fashion Box $59.95 a quarter! So, its really $239.80 annually
Oh and by the way, subscriptions are the bait to get you on the hook. After, they reel you in, over time they will start slowly increasing the cost. Again, this is just business and the cost of things, as there is this pesky little thing called inflation that just make goods and services costlier over time.
Let me tell you how my life has changed as I cancelled and avoided subscription services like the plague.
CASH RULES EVERYTHING AROUND ME
Money is like air, try and live without it. – Motivational Speaker
Some of you out there may remember the group the Wu-Tang Clan. They had a song called C.R.E.A.M and that pretty much summed up that you need money to sustain your life and that of your family.
You need shelter, food, water, transportation, insurance, internet, and phone.
Everything else is pretty much optional.
I have Netflix, Hulu, World Gym Express, AAA, insurance (life, auto, health, dental), and that’s about it.
I got a term life policy for pretty cheap through AAA.
I got some of the lowest prices available that would sustain my household. Things mean nothing to me. I don’t care about clothes or shopping. I prefer experiences. Me and the girls would have wine, pizza, and game night at each other’s houses.
Music videos were also a shopping trigger. Everyone from Ja Rule to Lil Wayne talked about being cash money millionaires. A rapper even made it his moniker: Chamillionaire!
Everyone in music videos had private planes, diamonds, champagne, mansions, and beamers, Benz and Bentleys!
Who thought of this thing called shoe game. I have never cared about shoes. I just wear them out until they are no longer useful and then repair or replace and toss the ones that are useless. I would wear shoes until I had holes in them. I don’t care. I’m fine. Grateful to have shoes on my feet.
However, when I was around 15, those videos started making me feel bad. So, at age 16, I decided to stop watching them. My self-esteem went through the roof!
Then years later, I discovered that many episodes of MTV cribs were not the full truth. I was floored. I was like you made me believe that success was in what I drove and what home I lived in. All wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong!
MONEY IS JUST A TOOL
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag its tail. -Kinky Friedman
If you read my last post, you know I was inspired to save more by the blogger who owns Millennial Money.
I backed off of doing and buying much of anything, so that I could be free. I wanted to be financially independent (FI). And that, my friends, requires discipline. FI requires sacrifice and saving.
Women tend to focus on saving.
Men tend to focus on earning.
I encourage you to do both. That is what I did.
Ask for a raise, if it will get you to your goals faster. Don’t ever be afraid to ask for anything, because all people can do is say yes or no. So, I ask for everything. I do not fear rejection. I have learned to fail better. You are rewarded for it.
I knew getting a good education or learning a skill (construction, HVAC, barber, hairstylist, IT, plumbing, electrician, or dental hygienist) that could be monetized was key.
I knew a guy many years ago that skipped college in favor of heating refrigeration and air conditioning training. Within like 6 months he was making $20 an hour! And that was right out of high school.
In the news, it was reported that construction is in dire need of those willing to learn the trade. Due to a lack of construction workers, homes being built now are higher priced and low-income homes are not being built.
All of the sudden people are too good for construction! I have always admired and liked a hardworking, driven person. Especially, a man who can work with his hands.
Remember that episode of Charmed, where their ancestor came back from the 1600’s. It’s okay if you don’t remember, I own the DVD and just so happen to have a clip of it. This part and another episode called Morality Bites are some of my favorites from the show.
What’s wrong with working with your hands? Like all of my uncles were mechanics. It was like Marissa Tomei in my cousin Vinny.
They always had grease under their fingernails and on their hands, but people depended on them. My Uncle Tommy helped everyone. He was kindhearted. He, like my father, never raised his voice because they didn’t have to. They were respected and loved. There was no need to yell.
I have always liked and been drawn to well-mannered, hardworking men.
My mom grew up on a farm and we would visit it every summer when I was little. My only memory of my grandfather was always of him dressed in overalls.
He was in excellent physical shape well into his 70’s. Farming is hard work. He was up by dawn and in bed by dusk.
There was always fresh fruit and vegetables because he grew it and sowed his crops himself.
I love the fact that you can take a blueprint, follow a plan, build a home, and have tangible proof of labor. But, you know, that’s just me.
I spent parts of my childhood holed up in my room or on the couch reading books. I would read the Sunday Comics (Peanuts were my favorites), Archie Comics, history books or anything lying around the house.
I put all my time and money into developing myself. It went to my health, family, education, and community. Those sacrifices of going to an in-state school and driving a beater have paid off in spades!
Let me show you how.
MONEY IS THE NAME AND SAVING AND INVESTING IS THE GAME
After being introduced to Millennial Money online, almost three years ago, I made some changes.
I started looking at money differently.
I started thinking of ways to save on a daily basis instead of just monthly or after I paid all my bills.
You have to have money left at the end of the month, if you want to build wealth.
I took a look at my bank and credit card statements to see what I was spending my money on. Was there anything I could cut out? Did I really need this?
I cut out nail salon visits, excess hair appointments, shopping sprees, vacations, car washes (another subscription, ugh), birthday parties (no gift to buy or buying the birthday girl a drink) and anything I could find.
I cut out miscellaneous expenses too. No stopping at Walgreen’s without a list. I only need one pen, not a pack. Is it on sale? I can’t afford full price to anyone whose name isn’t followed by M.D.
After trimming the fat, I started figuring out my savings rate.
I started out with this:
Year 1. Saving $50 per month. $600 a year. That’s $600/365 (days a year) = $1.64 a day savings rate.
Year 3. Saving $150 per month. $1,825 a year. That’s, $1,825/365 = $5 a day savings rate.
Year 6. Saving $1,111.04 per month. $13,333.06 a year. That’s, $13,333.06/365 = $36.53 a day savings rate.
I went from saving $1.64 a day to $36.53 a day! That’s a 22% increase in savings.
That’s progress. That is almost the equivalent of someone paying me $40 (two twenties a day) and I put aside $36.53 of it in savings.
If you notice, from the examples of what I did, it took 6 years to get here. I just started where I was at.
I just wanted to save $5 a day like Millennial Money talked about. I had no idea that I had done that and more. I was used to spending everything I had and being in debt.
To this day, I still try to find ways to increase my daily savings rate. Once I changed my money mindset, I changed my life. I got results. And you can too!
If you have been reading my blog recently, then you know I attended FinCon in Orlando, Florida this year.
However, what many of you may not know is that I have been listening to podcasts and reading blog posts by Grant Sabatier of Millennial Money.
Grant discussed saving money every day. Something like $5. And when I changed my mindset, I was like I want to do that too.
The escalation of your saving rate. Grant recommended that people try to escalate their saving by 1% every 30 days.
I knew this was a massive undertaking, but I was determined to do something.
So, I started where I was at and worked my way up. I just shifted upwards.
This is the first time I have ever opened up about what triggered me to start saving larger sums of money.
I am nervous just writing this post. However, I wanted to share some of the things that I have done in hopes that it may help someone else in the same way that Grant helped me.
SHIFT YOUR MONEY MINDSET
It was around 2013, that I started to do some Million-Dollar Math. I used an online calculator to determine how much I would have to save to get to millionaire status.
I focused on 2 numbers: $100,000 and $300,000.
The reason for this was because at an 8% return $100,000 will net you $1,000,000 in 30 years. At a 9% return, $300,000 will net you $1,000,000 in 12 years.
Even that, seemed like it would take tremendous effort. Then I realized I had to think big, but start small. Start where I was at.
The answer was staring me right in the face. I was like Homer Simpson, Doh! Come on, Miriam. Use your Noggin.
I needed to take the small steps first in order to get to the bigger ones.
A number like $1,000,000 is too daunting. So, I broke it up into bite sizes like Oreo mini’s.
First, I focused on my retirement savings and then my regular savings. It went something like this.
Retirement Savings Escalation Example
Year
Savings %
Annual Increase
Change
Savings Escalation
2013
13%
2%
+2
2014
2015
15%
20%
2%
5%
+4
+9
2016*
25%
5%
+14
*** I stopped at 2016 because I shifted my focus from mostly all savings going to my 401(k) to focusing more on liquid savings for the time being. Don’t worry. I still invest in my 401(k). I have to get that match after all. Can’t leave free money on the table.
In 2017, I made some changes to my savings approach. I needed to have some liquid cash too and not just have all my funds locked up in my 401(k). I had to have cash reserves. Especially, for any unforeseen emergencies that just pop up.
I decided to pay myself first. Instead of saving what was left over after paying my bills and spending money on things, I saved first. I set up an automatic deposit to my savings, then paid my bills and then spent what was left.
My savings rate was so high that there was not but so much left over to spend. I did this on purpose.
It meant I must not only spend less (a lot less), but I must also earn more if I want to spend more.
I started saving more liquid cash in my savings and money market accounts.
In order to get my savings rate higher, I had to cut subscriptions, payoff debt, and eat out less.
And there is a secret to my success. Shhh! But, I’ll tell you guys. The secret is this: I automate it.
Savings Year
Monthly Savings Amount
End of Year Total Savings
2013
$50
$600
2014
$100
$1200
2015
$150
$1800
2016
$250
$3000
2017
$333
$3996
2018
$1,111.04
$13,333.06
2019*
$1,211.09
$14,533.06
I try to increase my savings rate by a minimum of between 1%-5% a year and even double or triple it, if I can. I just cut out everything. I spend as little on clothes as possible. I haven’t bought a car in almost 16 years. I don’t care. I’d rather save and be financially independent.
You can see from the numbers above that once I was introduced to Grant, my savings rate went through the roof and increased quite dramatically!
At the rate I’m going, I estimate I will have somewhere between $80,000 – $90,000+ after factoring in for life (cause things just come up).
And that is only if I continue on this path for at least the next several years and increase my savings by about 11% per year or around $1200 annually, which is a $100 increase in savings per month. I could decide to save even more over time.
I would then have enough savings in the bank to pay for 3-5 years of my expenses.
I estimated my FIRE number (25 x my expenses): $750,000.
Once I hit that or a certain number in liquid savings, I will then re-evaluate my situation.
WHEN I GOT INSPIRED BY MILLENNIAL MONEY
It happened around 2017. I like to read money articles, magazines and books. I like to study the self-made. Then maybe I can emulate their success.
I saw an article about Grant on CNBC in early 2017. I was intrigued to learn how someone could do this in just 5 years what most are unable to do in a 30 or 40-year career or even in a lifetime.
Once I read his story I was inspired to act. I was determined to get my act together too. I devoured personal finance (PF) books. I must have read at least 40-60 in the last 15 months alone.
However, I haven’t bought a book in about 3 years. Too expensive. I rent them all from the library.
I do have some books I own from the years I was buying personal finance books. I have a small mini-library in my home (just a medium-sized book shelf) full of all my PF books.
I feel that if you want to be wealthy, then you have to read. You have to pursue wealth. Your house should look like a Barnes and Noble, if you want to be rich.
And ditch the plastic, unless you can pay it off every month. Once you stop making those installments, all your money is yours and a lot of your money woes disappear.
However, for the first time in years I am allowing myself to buy a book and it will be Grant’s new book that is coming out in February 2019.
How do I know he has a book coming out at that time you ask?
Thanks for asking. I’ll tell you all about it.
MEETING MILLENNIAL MONEY
I went to Fincon, a financial conference where money and media meet, and Grant happened to be speaking at one of the workshop sessions.
I stepped in to see what he had to say.
He was awesome. I felt his passion for what he did. It was palpable.
He said blogging is a long game. Your blog and appearance should be clean and shiny.
Be unique, be yourself and tell your story. Stand out from the crowd because the media will try to lump you in with all the other bloggers. Don’t let them.
Sell your feel goods. Feelings are what connect people to you and your blog.
Do you care about your reader? If so, be clear and transparent. Have a mission.
When I shared my story about having only $2.26 in my bank account it just one day exploded. I have done over 400 media interviews because of it.
90 days ago a firm offered me $4 million dollars for my site. I turned it down. I can’t sell my site. It’s my baby. There is more to life than money. It’s not the money. It’s the work.
If you want to be a blogger, make your posts memorable. Have personality. Be vulnerable. Be more giving. Show people that you are human. Tell your struggles and challenges. Reveal things to your readers over time. Humanize your site. Be more open.
Screen shot your story. Make it unique so people can remember. Always start with a story.
Write lots of stories. Do your reps. Put in your time. Putting in the extra time to write 3 times more content means you connected the reader. Readers are looking for an emotional connection. And Storytelling.
I’ve written 1 million words about money. And I’m not done. Be distinctive.
This is the age of vulnerability and that is why digital podcasts are so popular.
At this point, I got the message. He was so passionate when he spoke I did not want to leave the session because he was so engaging.
I made a point to walk up to him later in the day and introduce myself and tell him how much I enjoyed his workshop.
He said thank you so much. I really appreciate that because it’s scary up there. Your like an island up there.
I also told him I did not think he should sell his website. I mean where I would get my feel goods.
I then gave him my card and he gave me his flyer. He was super grateful and humble when I told him I liked his speech. I felt and thought that he had a good personality and thoughtful disposition that was positive and hardworking.
And I was right. At the closing party, Grant displayed , yet again, his big-hearted and kind nature.
The DJ was packing it up for the night, but people still wanted to dance. He offered to pay the DJ (out of his own pocket to keep the party going). That was really nice.
That’s the type of people I need and want around me. Those with good character and that care about others. I want to be a good neighbor. And want to be around good neighbors as well.
After all, you never know when you may need to borrow a cup of sugar or need someone’s help.
Case in point, I had a close friend that needed some money fast in order to close on her house. I wrote her a check the very next day, with no other questions asked and she paid me back within 2 months.
My sister also many years ago was in a bind and needed to pay a debt. She said she needed $500 dollars. I wired her the money the same day. She said she would pay me back and I told her to forget it. After all she had done for me. I didn’t forget when there were times she helped me out. I had a chance to repay the favor, so I did.
I know some people out there may say it was just a DJ, but no. It was more than that. It was the fact that he was willing to dig in his pockets and spend money on hundreds of virtual strangers.
I have seen people not willing to give up a dollar, a penny even, not one red cent to help family members. Let alone a stranger. And this guy did it, no questions asked and without waiting for or expecting a thank you.
Well, there you have it. My story of how I started to save more.
You now know more about me than some of my close friends and family members do.
I’m not going to lie. I was scared to write this post, but if Grant can screen shot his bank account showing $2.26 in it, then I am willing to share as well.
I too lived at home longer that I wanted or planned to. I went shopping and spent recklessly to numb the pain. I felt I was failing at adulting.
I had to find a way to kick the habit because it was putting me in the poor house.
I started shopping with lists. I would make painstakingly long lists of clothes I wanted to buy. I would make myself wait 30 days before making a purchase. By then, I didn’t even want the clothes anymore.
To satisfy my cravings, I would at times (every few days or weeks) allow myself to go online to Nordstrom and put every item of clothing I wanted in the shopping cart. I once raked up a bill for $18,000 dollars!
However, I thought about my money or my life. How much in sweat would I have to toil to pay off that sweater that no one is going to see me in because I am too broke to go out?
By the time I would be able to pay off the debt (plastic fantastic), those clothes would be long gone and the interest would have made them way more expensive than the $18,000 I racked up just to buy them.
I did not buy one single item.
I proceeded to do this for about 6 months and sometimes I did it every day, in order to get it out of my system.
I have been cured of my shopping addition and clean and clothes sober for the last 5 years. Thank you very much.
I have never told anyone any of these things except my partner. He said do whatever you have to do not to spend.
I’m embarrassed to tell people that I used to do that, but whatever it’s my truth and I’m living in it.
I wasted so much money on clothes. You would not believe. For every event, I would go shopping. I needed a new dress or jacket or boots. I spent with reckless abandon to impress people that I didn’t even know, like or who didn’t even care.
Now, I never go on Macy’s website for longer than 10 minutes, I get what I need, and get out. I have bought very little and way less clothing than in the past. I rarely go to malls and no longer go to any clothing sites online.
I had about 600 items in my Amazon cart. Those items have been just sitting there probably for like the last 5 years. I was like forget it. I don’t need any more stuff.
I also notice when I don’t shop, I feel better. I get just as much joy in saving as I o spending. Almost. Let’s not go crazy now. I’m only human.
I started donating clothes and items all around the house. It feels good to purge all that stuff. It’s so freeing. It was cluttering up my mind and house. I don’t need a bunch of gadgets and new clothes and shoes. I would repair instead of replace.
I rarely go to the movies and almost never go on vacation. And if I do, it’s usually once a year.
I keep myself busy. I don’t like ideal hands. I find something productive to do. Even if, it’s just reading or cleaning the house.
Sometimes, I still get the itch to shop and spend, but I have learned not to scratch it. If the goal, is to be financially secure then sacrifices will have to be made. Hard work is required of anything good and important and it takes time. And hard work builds character.
And I am okay with not getting rich quick or overnight because I know anything truly worth having is worth the wait. The only way to really feel good about something is to earn it first.
I had to train myself on how to deal with large influxes of money and to keep my paws off of it. And much like the narrator said at the end of the Neverending Story, but that’s another story…
